January 10, 2015

"For every minute that you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Anger and frustration is something that we are all constantly constantly plagued with. It doesn't matter who the person is, or what you think of them, at some point you are going to get mad and disagree with some if their choices.  

We are surrounded by a lot of people in our lives who do a lot of things, sometimes it's something incredible and you cannot agree more with what they're saying or doing. You wholeheartedly support their decision and you are filled with this absolute sense of pride, but sometimes your reaction can be the complete opposite. It's strange how sometimes the people who we hold close can often drive us completely insane. 

When you're angry with someone, you have a coupe choices, hold onto that anger and don't let it go. Let the anger swell up inside of you until you can barely stand to look at them. You just want to expel every negative thought that you have ever had about that person. You want to yell and scream and stomp your feet like a child because sometimes it all gets too much. The quiet girl that's always polite and well-mannered has had enough and nows the time to tell you what I really think. It's strange how anger has this power over us, the power to take control of our words and emotions and send them out into the world. 

Am I the only one that gets like this? The only one who strives to be a good friend, but sometimes becomes so frustrated and angry with people that you just snap. You loose it, and you either yell at someone and tell them what you really think or you write out that list in your head, the list of everything that has ever annoyed you about the other person but you'd never have the guts to say it. I often find myself taking the second approach, the approach where I never tell people what I really think in fear that they'll hold against me. I never tell people what I really think because I'm scared they won't like me anymore. I never tell people what I really think because I don't want to loose the friendships that took so long to create. 

Now you've made your move, you've either said what you really think or you've kept it to yourself. Either way you're usually sitting there, alone, feeling angry with yourself, because you said what you really thought or because you didn't say what you really think. 

Someone once told me something, which I'm pretty sure he paraphrased from Buddha, but it was that being angry with someone is like holding onto a hot coal. You can squeeze it and hold it in your hot little hand and nothing will happen, but if you don't let it go, if you don't release that hot coal the only thing that can result from it, is that you'll have a burnt hand. 

Is it better to hold onto our anger, keeping it inside and letting it consume us or are we better to say what we really think, put those out into the world and wait patiently for the result. 


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