Personal Strength.

October 13, 2015

"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realise this, and you will find personal strength." - Marcus Aurelius, Meditations  

The thing is, right now I have some pretty amazing stuff happening in my life, but there's always these little fears which still affect me. Everything someone says has an effect on me whether it's meant to or not and it's likely that I will spend hours obsessing over it whether it was something negative or something positive. I don't know why, but it's jus the way I am and that's okay. Self-acceptance is one of the things that most adolescents struggle with, depending on what situation you're in it's often really hard to accept yourself and find your place in the world. The thing you have to remember is that everyone is fighting the same battle, fighting to find where they fit. 

They say never judge a person till you've walked a mile in their shoes, and if there's a list of quotes to live by then this would 100% be on that list. Right now every single individual has a battle which they are fighting, every single person is fighting from the moment they open their eyes to the moment they close them again that night. It's hard to remember this at times when you get caught up in your own world. As humans we have a tendency to become a bit self-obsessed; which is completely fine but it's important to also show an interest in the lives of others, listen to their stories and woes and try and help them remain positive.

Whilst I strongly recommend listen to people's problems and being the best friend you can be, that's one of my personal top priorities in life, it's also important to not give every part of yourself away. Where you get to the point that people are just taking from you, and suddenly you have no time for yourself. Every part of your existence has been stolen away and all you want to do is curl up, because you feel so hollow. At times life can be really overwhelming and sometimes all you want to do is hide away from the world, but from my experience this is the WORST thing you can do. Yes from time to time it's nice to hide away in your room but I know that at the end of the day nothing good can come of this. 

Life can sometimes be incredibly scary and overwhelming but all you have to do is take a deep breath and acknowledge this. You have to accept that life is fragile and that something could go wrong at any moment, but life is too short to live with regrets. Life is too short to say no to amazing opportunities. Life is too short to dwell on petty things. 

Sometimes you have to take a step back and just take some time and deep breaths. This can be if you suffer from anxiety or you just have a temper, stepping back and counting to five can stop you from doing something really awful that could really effect someone, holding your tongue and stopping before you act is really important, but this doesn't mean saying no. Over the past year I've tried to say yes to as many opportunities as I can, forcing time in my schedule to do everything I possibly can and telling the little voice at the back of my head to shove it. From personal experience saying yes has led to nothing but joy. Though I've also said no to some things because it just didn't feel right, there's a difference and whilst it is a fine line you just have to give yourself a little push, because you never know what could come of it. You have to fight for what you believe in and fight for what you want, because no one else is going to fight for you. 

At the end of the day, whilst it is really important to have support and be supportive, you have to rely on your own personal strength, your own faith in yourself and your ability to look after yourself. You have gotten this far on your own, and you're the one whose tucking yourself into bed at night, there's no one to hold your hand and help you through it's just you. Sometimes we need a reminder of our own personal strength and whilst there is nothing wrong with getting help if you need it, you're are the one that needs to ask for help. Everyone does need a little help sometimes but it takes a great deal of courage to accept yourself for who you are, and take steps to face your fears and solve your own problems. It takes courage to face the world everyday when it seems so much safer in your room, but just think of what amazing opportunities could be just around the corner!  

Be brave, take baby steps, I'm always here if you need me and I have faith in you. 


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